So, what’s the best way to be a friend? You should try to make their day better. Here are a few things you can do:
A) Don’t expect them to take care of something for you, it is always up to them.
B) Offer them your help when they need it.
C) Listen and empathize with them.
D) Help them with their problems or doubts.
E) Do not criticize their failures or mistakes in life and don’t point any blame at them .
F) Talk about the ups and downs of your own life, not theirs, as if that were your story too.
G) Don’t try to fix them, just listen and give advice if they ask for it (and only if they ask).
H) If they are happy, let them be happy. If they are sad, help them by being there for them when they need you.
2. The Importance of being a Good Friend
The key to being a good friend is to always be present. When you are in the presence of others, don’t think about what you want or need. It’s not your turn to talk yet. It will come at a later time. If you interrupt someone’s flow, it’s already too late to fix it. If you want to be a friend, the way to do it is by taking things one step at a time. If you have something on your mind, ask them if they’re willing to help you out with it and make sure they are able (or willing) to do so. The best way of doing this is by asking them directly rather than indirectly: “Do you think I could use some help with this?” When giving someone an opportunity or an offer that they don’t want or can’t accept, be careful not to over promise and under deliver; let them know that they have options and alternatives; tell them something fairly concrete — say: “I can help you out with this tomorrow when I am free… I will see what I can do for you… Let me know if anything comes up then… Thanks for the offer, but I have other stuff going on right now… Sorry for the inconvenience… Have a great day!” This way of thinking about things has helped many people and companies grow in their business. Giving people choices helps them take better advantage of opportunities (which helps them grow). You should never promise something that cannot become a reality/a reality that cannot become something else as long as it is something that can become more than just an option; and when dealing with uncertainty (like faced with legal disputes), always remind yourself that uncertainty is part of normal life in the real world).
3. How to be a Better Friend
When your friend is having a tough time and you are facing your own challenge, it’s very important to share your perspective. Showing empathy in this situation isn’t only a kindness — it also can help. Sharing the struggle will motivate them to do more, and may give them the motivation they need to find a solution. It can also help them feel less alone in their problems. It’s also important to remember that friends aren’t just there to support you; they are there because they want to be supportive too. They may want to share their concerns and point out a good way of handling the situation — but if you don’t care about those wishes, then sharing those concerns won’t make things any better for anyone. Remember this at all times: you have the power over how much empathy you show, so use it wisely and sparingly. Friendship should never come at the expense of someone else’s feelings or needs; nor should it come at the expense of your own feelings or needs either.
You are a good friend and have a lot of positive things to say about others. But what if you were to tell them the truth? As it turns out, the truth is that a number of people are not very good friends — and you probably know some of them. So what do you do about it? (I’m not talking about your fellow employees or customers; I’m talking about the people who really matter.) First, ask yourself — who is the most important person in your life? If it’s someone else, then…Second, take a moment to think of reasons why this person matters to you. Obviously, they need your support and care. And they may be unique and special… but how do you know that they aren’t just like everyone else? You can’t know for sure! But there are two ways to tell:
1) By seeing how they treat their friends
2) By seeing how they treat other people
Now let’s go through option one and analyze it together:
1) See if this person treats their friends well: They may be generous with money or time; they may give up personal space for someone else; They may make sacrifices for you… Or maybe these behaviors don’t mean much… but at least there are words that matter in this context. If spending time with this person means giving up your own social life for them (and I wouldn’t recommend that), then see if there is something special here that makes it worth spending time with them. If so, then take a moment to think about whether the cost-benefit analysis favors friendship over someone who isn’t particularly nice to strangers (or vice versa). And if so, then call or email this person and tell him/her that you have thought about what he/she said and decided not to spend time with him/her unless he/she is worthy of your friendship and likes spending time with other people too! If this person doesn’t want to be bothered by any contact at all, then actually think about whether friendship is worth the effort… no matter how much fun it might be! That is only one way of thinking through the issue: many other ways exist as well.